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Random Petty Frustration
Sep. 30th, 2017 03:57 pmThis is the dumbest thing ever, and I don't know why I'm upset about it.
Danny and I decided we're going to get a cat as an early Christmas gift for the kids. And let's be honest, partially for me too, because I love cats. We planned to go to the shelter this morning, had an idea what we were looking for, etc. Cat adoptions were on special for only $25 -- all cats are fixed, with updated shots, tests, etc.
So I was excited.
Turns out, the webpage for the shelter was out of date and they are only open on the 2nd and 4th Saturdays of the month. Danny called the local PetSmart, because they hold cats for adoption for the shelter as well, and they are open today, but the adoption would be $100. ($45 more than the $55 it will be on the 2nd Saturday of October.)
I wanted to just do the adoption from PetSmart. Danny points out that we have been spending a lot of money today, and have lots of activities, and it would be more responsible to wait two weeks, especially since we'll have to buy the other supplies and such too.
He's not wrong. It makes sense to wait and save the money. I can't argue with his logic.
But we do have the money.
And I'm feeling so resentful. It's not reasonable, I know. But I just can't help but thinking that I paid $750 for him to go to Seattle. I put aside $400 for the YMCA fees this month, $65 so he can buy a computer game that he wants this month, $160/month for Aikido, $100 this month for BoyScouts (new uniform shirt, t-shirts, popcorn, etc.), $30 for the "Rock-a-thon" fundraiser for band, etc. But this one thing that I want, we decide no, that's the line?
It's dumb. I only have to wait two weeks. But we've been planning the whole thing for two days (complete surprise for the kids) and I got up early today. I was really excited. It was just such a let-down.
Plus, there's just the whole "nail vs. not about the nail" thing. It's about the nail for me. Danny is trying to be supportive of my feelings. I don't want him to be supportive. I want him to fix it. I want him to do the emotional work and figure out a solution, and he's just not interested.
Danny and I decided we're going to get a cat as an early Christmas gift for the kids. And let's be honest, partially for me too, because I love cats. We planned to go to the shelter this morning, had an idea what we were looking for, etc. Cat adoptions were on special for only $25 -- all cats are fixed, with updated shots, tests, etc.
So I was excited.
Turns out, the webpage for the shelter was out of date and they are only open on the 2nd and 4th Saturdays of the month. Danny called the local PetSmart, because they hold cats for adoption for the shelter as well, and they are open today, but the adoption would be $100. ($45 more than the $55 it will be on the 2nd Saturday of October.)
I wanted to just do the adoption from PetSmart. Danny points out that we have been spending a lot of money today, and have lots of activities, and it would be more responsible to wait two weeks, especially since we'll have to buy the other supplies and such too.
He's not wrong. It makes sense to wait and save the money. I can't argue with his logic.
But we do have the money.
And I'm feeling so resentful. It's not reasonable, I know. But I just can't help but thinking that I paid $750 for him to go to Seattle. I put aside $400 for the YMCA fees this month, $65 so he can buy a computer game that he wants this month, $160/month for Aikido, $100 this month for BoyScouts (new uniform shirt, t-shirts, popcorn, etc.), $30 for the "Rock-a-thon" fundraiser for band, etc. But this one thing that I want, we decide no, that's the line?
It's dumb. I only have to wait two weeks. But we've been planning the whole thing for two days (complete surprise for the kids) and I got up early today. I was really excited. It was just such a let-down.
Plus, there's just the whole "nail vs. not about the nail" thing. It's about the nail for me. Danny is trying to be supportive of my feelings. I don't want him to be supportive. I want him to fix it. I want him to do the emotional work and figure out a solution, and he's just not interested.
